1000 Word Excerpt
Quest of the Modern Day Warrior is not a book about combat or attack My use of this term refers to a battle that we men have inside ourselves to not be like the people we saw growing up. For many of us it is truly an inner war that we sometimes lose, because we dont know any other way to be, other than the way we were raised. This is a very common problem and many of us end up hurting the ones that love us, because we are already trained by example to be a certain way.
Quest of the Modern Day Warrior is to be an individual, not a clone borne of a dysfunctional childhood past. His quest is to be the best man he can be and to be accountable for the mistakes that he makes. This quest can save us as people, especially if our fathers were not there for us, or if our fathers were simply bad or troubled people. The Modern Day Warrior is one that challenges what he has seen and learned and been programmed to replicate by his past training. This is accomplished by choosing to go to war against the potential malfunctions that he harbors inside the deepest parts of himself.
My hunger for the truth is what gave me the insight to write Quest of the Modern Day Warrior. My main motivation is to pay forward what I have experienced and to tell the story of what others with advanced life experience have seen. I have read many books, watched many types of videotape, and have listened to psychologists lectures. Nevertheless, I have found that nothing takes the place of real hands-on experience.
This book is a testimony to those Modern Day Warriors who, like me, make life work day-in and day-out. They do so without doing stupid things to hurt other people for personal gain. The public has an idea of how they think men behave collectively (Uncaring, untrusting, unforgiving, hardheaded), but I know differently, by learning from examples of greatness.
I have been in relationships throughout my life with great women and men who think the same way I do. They have noticed that many men out there have a twisted idea of how a man is supposed to be with his family, career, and his friends. I have personally witnessed buckets full of men that have no idea of what it means to express themselves to their kids. They are clueless when it comes to expressing authority properly, or respecting authority in the workplace. They are dumbfounded by the fact that their wives are supposed to be their best friends, not their babysitters, or their maids. I am, not saying that men need to be Mr. Mom all the time just to please their mates. I believe that we, as men, should lead the way, follow when necessary, or get the hell out of the way.
How can we be leaders in our families when those that are in "second" or "third" command love us, but do not like us? That is correct. They will love you because you are the male figurehead or Father by title, but if you are a jackass, everyone in the house, down to your hound dog knows what you are all about.
Just because your Dad only showed you how to be a Neanderthal does not mean you have to be the same way. Leadership is all about making things right in your own life. It is all about taking responsibility to make sure the same ignorance does not happen in your family. A real man makes it happen through earning his respect, not taking it by force. Only then can we be the leaders our families truly need and respect.
If you have a good woman that enhances your life just by her existence alone, nothing is too good for her. If you know that you have a partner that will do anything to keep her family strong and her man strong, then you need to do your part. Just remember: If mama aint happy, nobodys happy.
You cannot beat being in love with a woman, and she melts into your soul when you connect on that level. The two of you may be super-freaks together, but are nothing without one another. That is what is great about sex, being in love with your partner and not caring what you do in front of her. Go put on that Annie Oakley outfit, Girl!
Guys remember this always: When sex leaves a marriage, divorce or infidelity usually follows. Never fails. Therefore, if you are not being intimate with your wife, you had better ask her why. Most of the time, she will tell you.
There is nothing sorrier to a woman than a man that does not have his stuff together. There is nothing sorrier than a dude who is always asking her for money or a ride somewhere. That is a tough world to live in, but, if you are a man that is good to her and you are making strides to change your life, she is apt to give you a chance.
If there were no women on this planet, we would be sitting on the couch in three-week-old underwear, staring at the wall.
People, and men in particular, so many times, are so used to chasing after a goal that they forget to see the things that are really important. Men do not stop to feel the cool rain on their faces on a hot summer day, or stop and smell the flowers. It is all about knowing how to balance your work and your relationship so that you can see your Queen in front of you and nurture your relationship.
Go to war and wage it on your negative past, or your present. You have a quest. You have a future. You have a responsibility to yourself, and to those in your life, to grow.
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