Preface

The topic of discussion among any group of women, single or married, young or old, rich or poor, will inevitably lead to a formidable, fiery and sometimes turbulent discussion about men. Although some women may deliberately attempt to avert the topic, someone within the confines of the group will ultimately divert the group to dialogue about men.
The topics of debate range from men being the Spiritual leaders, head of households, fathers, role models, lovers, providers, Casanovas, manipulators and warriors to good for nothing absent fathers.
Unfortunately, there is always at least one woman in the crowd that surfaces who had a negative experience with a man. It could have been a rocky relationship, a man who abandoned her, a father who failed to fulfill his financial obligations to his family, or countless other experiences. The women who have encountered a damaging relationship with a man have the propensity to use the one negative relationship as a barometer to measure the worth of all men.
Women that have been subjected to harmful relationships with men are instrumental in leading their fellow sisters, friends and colleagues to believing that all men are tainted, worthless and useless.
Generally, when the topic of men and their destructive attributes are exhaustibly discussed, there is a common strand that resounds and resonates in the minds and hearts of women. Where are the good men? We have heard the saying, “A Good Man is hard to find.” A Good Man is not so hard to find if one knows one when she encounters one. There are certain characteristics, virtues, qualities, morals and values that a Good Man constantly demonstrates and exemplifies. The quandary is that some women are unaware and oblivious of the unique characteristics of a Good Man.
The title of this book “Steps of a Good Man” originates from Psalm 37. God in His infinite wisdom and power has clearly delineated in His word the attributes of a Good Man. Psalm 37:23, “The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord, and he delighteth in his way.”
A Good Man is a person, who God delights, follows God, trusts Him, has hidden the word of God in his heart and seeks to do the will of the Father. As a result, God guards over every step he takes along the journey. “The law of his God is in his heart; none of his steps shall slide.” Psalm 37:23
Women no longer have to ask the question “Where are the good men?” Women who are tuned to the word and voice of God, coupled with the Spirit of discernment, will undoubtedly readily identify the steps of a Good Man.


Chapter One
A Good Man is Hard to Find
It was that time of year again. The time to convene in a quaint, intimate restaurant with a group of single and married, stunning, intelligent women to discuss mundane topics such as careers, hobbies, families, educational journeys and church ministries. The conversation originated with everyone taking the round robin approach to discuss the topics at hand. Suddenly, without any warning, one of the single women emerged with a pervasive topic no one was prepared to thrash out. She started talking about her urgent desire to be married. It was a topic that thousands of women had discussed over the years.
None of the women were astonished at the topic because everyone had previously heard it from a family member, friend or colleague. The women were bewildered that she was having an arduous time connecting with a potential mate. She was an attractive, smart, dazzling female who possessed the attributes of a phenomenal woman. They could not fathom why it was getting increasingly difficult for their friend to locate a good man.
The women stared into their friend’s eyes and poignantly asked why she was having a difficult time discovering the right man. The friend gazed into the eyes of the women and stated, “I am having difficulties ascertaining a mate because a Good Man is hard to find!” Several of the single women immediately sanctioned and corroborated her position. Fortunately, one of the blissfully married women interjected and asserted that there were some Good Men in the world. Her single, frustrated friend rhetorically responded that she needed to relocate to another planet because she had not been auspicious enough to meet any Good Men on earth!
The married woman thought the single woman expressed an inscrutable response that had infiltrated the hearts of women seated around the table. She lamented over the perilous comments and generalizations that were being made about men. She immediately refuted their innuendos, took an imperturbable stance, elevated her voice, and declared that there were Good Men on earth. She avowed that women must be keenly aware of the distinct attributes and characteristics that are manifested and displayed by good men. The women movingly summoned their married friend to affirm the qualities of a Good Man which prompted her to give a written account of the attributes and characteristics of a Good Man.