“Thirty-five years in this stinkin’ job and what do I have to show for it? Nothing! Not a damn thing!” Martin stormed from his boss’s office, his face scarlet and swollen with rage. This was the second time he’d been passed over for a promotion in three years and he was sick of it. Just because he’s fifty-five shouldn’t mean that someone younger should get the job he deserves! As he slammed the door, three secretaries’ heads dropped, their eyes pinned to the work on their desks. Everyone was afraid of Martin because of his explosive rage, and the thought of being at the brunt of his anger was enough to make anyone want to crawl under the desk. Martin’s boss stood at the window of his office, witness to the vile venom that spewed from his employee’s mouth. He knew that if he fired Martin, there would be hell to pay — not only from the ‘powers that be’ in the company, but from Martin himself. He’d heard that Martin took his rage out on a couple of his subordinates, but he didn’t know if the rumors were true. No one had complained, so he chalked it up to just that — rumors. So. What do you think? Unfortunately, Martin’s behavior isn’t uncommon –— in fact, men and women in the workforce have to deal with behavior similar to Martin’s every day. They endure insults, degradation and humiliation from colleagues, supervisors and managers with a degree of shame that’s an undercurrent in every facet of their lives. But the sad thing is that they feel like they can’t do anything about it. If they open their mouths, they risk losing their jobs — and, in today’s economy, who can afford that? So, they suck it up and they don’t say a word. They live in fear. And misery. If you read the first book in this series, Taking the Bully by the Horns, you know that bullying behavior often begins on the asphalt and dirt of the playground. Children are quick to realize who is weak or strong, who is easy to manipulate and who won’t rat on them by telling the teacher. They establish pecking orders by congregating at the far reaches of the schoolyard, pointing out those students who may be perfect targets for their verbal or physical assaults. Believe it or not, at the tender age of five or six, a bully may be in the making. It’s sad, isn’t it? By the time bullies reach the end of their high school careers, they’re ready to move on. Oh, I don’t mean simply move on to college . . . I mean they move on with their bullying. Don’t be fooled into thinking that once bullies graduate that their bullying days are over. Oh, no . . . the fact is they’re just getting started. And what I think is really interesting is that the ‘style’ of bullying gets more ‘refined’ or ‘sophisticated’ as the bully moves forward in life. So, do bullies carry their behavior into college when they leave their parents’ fold and give life a try all on their own? You betcha! Oddly enough, though, there hasn’t been a lot of press about the college bully — a few studies have been done, but not to the extent of investigating younger or workplace bullies. It seems as if the bully enters a ‘no-man’s land’ for about four years, and then resurfaces when he or she scores the first real job. But, they’re still there, working their ‘magic’ in different ways and, many times, bullying is recognized as hate crimes, sexual harassment and anti-gay incidents. And, I’m sure you’ve heard of hazing — the behavior exhibited by fraternities and sororities on a regular basis. Well, that’s bullying in its purest form. Then you have sports team initiations and other types of ‘social’ bullying — i.e, Facebook, MySpace, etc. You probably already know that social networking provides a forum for bullies for not only kids in high school, but college students and adults, as well. People bashing. What used to be taboo is now cool to do. I’m not going to spend a lot of time on the college bully (maybe I should!), because the thrust of this book is about the workforce bully. That said, I think it’s important for you to understand in your gut that bullying is prevalent everywhere in our society — it’s insidious, pernicious and never-ending. It’s been around for a long time and it’s getting worse. Let’s get back to Martin for a minute. There was a time in my life when I would have been astonished and mortified by Martin’s behavior as he left his boss’ office. Today? Not so much. I am still mortified, though. My years of working with individuals embroiled in conflict while at work opened my eyes quicker than a cobra’s strike — everyday I see the handiwork of the workplace bully, and it isn’t pretty. You’re probably asking yourself the question, “How can someone get away with behavior like that and not get fired?” Fair question. Maybe it’s because his or her work performance is excellent when it comes down to the bottom line. Maybe it’s because the bully brings in a boatload of money for the company. Maybe the bully’s behavior incites a feeling of fear in people who are around him — or, her. You get the point. But there’s one more reason, and it’s probably the most important — employees are, many times, afraid of losing their jobs if they report the bully’s behavior. They believe that if it ever gets out that they reported it, the bullying against them will escalate and it will be worse than before. They think that they may graduate from ‘witnesses’ to ‘victims’. They’re probably right. There is one good thing, however, about Martin’s situation. Maybe he’s being passed over for promotion because of his bullying behavior . . .
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