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A Meaning for Danny

by:
Brigid Marlin (Author)

ISBN: 0-7414-6692-9 ©2012
Price: $15.95
Book Size: 5.5'' x 8.5'' , 282 pages
Category/Subject: BIOGRAPHY & AUTOBIOGRAPHY / General

Compelling and intelligent, Brigid Marlin’s poignant and engaging book is the story of both her son’s lifelong struggles with Asperger’s syndrome, depression and isolation, and her own struggles as a mother, trying to help her son and make sense of his suffering.

Abstract:
A Meaning for Danny is the story of a son with the symptoms of Asperger’s syndrome long before that term was coined, and of his lifelong struggles with misdiagnoses, medications, depression and isolation. It is also the story of a mother’s struggle to make sense of her son’s suffering and to help him find a place in the world.

Brigid Marlin interweaves her son’s portrait with her own story, her self-discovery as an artist, mother and wife, and her fight to find hope and stability again. With insight developed over years of questioning and reflection, and with wit and grace, Ms. Marlin brings us into Danny’s world and her own journey toward understanding.

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  Compelling Memoir , 11/12/2014
Reviewer: Parenting Books for Spring
A Meaning for Danny by Brigid Marlin is a compelling memoir addressing the joys and struggles of raising a child with Asperger’s syndrome. As parents, we know the number of children who fall within the autism spectrum is staggering, yet there is hope when it comes to dealing with the challenges parents must face. This touching story of one mother who never gave up will provide valuable insight for those looking for inspiration.

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  Very interesting , 11/12/2014
Reviewer: David Stevens
"A Meaning for Danny" by Brigid Marlin was very interesting to say the least. The author, Brigid Marlin, not only told the story of her eldest son "Danny" and his terrible health afflictions but she also showcased the effect one child's illness can have on the rest of his family. This story, as told by a distraught mother, details her interaction with a non-understanding husband, the educational system, a myriad of health professionals and their differing opinons and the public in general, was enough to make a "normal" person wish to escape in any way they can. No one would ever wish to have to walk even one day in her shoes but sadly, there are many families around our world who have this same or similar problem to deal with. May God bless and keep them, they certainly need it. Would I recommend this book to others? YES, and I already have.

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  Brave undertaking , 11/12/2014
Reviewer: S. Tomalin
This is a personal account of the author’s experience in a strange world of warmth and a search for understanding, first as a child herself, then as a loving parent of a mentally and physically afflicted child whom she was unable to protect from his own torments. It recounts her struggles to support him physically and emotionally alongside his two younger brothers while at the same time developing herself and becoming an accomplished artist. Not only did Danny have the syndrome called Asperger’s, which is considered a mental health problem and manifests as disruptive behaviour, difficulties in communication, not really listening or considering others, problems of learning while also having an obsessive memory for things of interest, feeling isolated, and poor physical co-ordination, but Danny was also prone to epileptic fits. His childhood and teenage years were spent during a time when medical research had not yet fully recognised and defined this syndrome and his treatment seems to have been experimental. Brigid Marlin first takes us in simple clear language through her own story as a member of an artistic American family and the complications of early childhood until it was realised at the age of 8 that she was very shortsighted. They moved to Canada, then Holland and it was in Ireland that she met her husband and then gave birth to Daniel, the eldest of their 3 boys. In the 1950s they moved to England and Danny started school, which was a hard transition. He was taken to see a succession of doctors, psychiatrists, social workers and priests- being diagnosed first as schizophrenic, then epileptic. All sorts of pills and drugs were tried, and even a raw food diet. The care of a young person with frequent bouts of unpredictable behaviour and/or fits was exhausting for Brigid: …“one of the difficulties of dealing with Danny was that you never knew whether a problem came from a reaction to the pills he was taking or was due to any mental problems or was simply the onset of adolescence”… Even under this strain at home she developed her gifts as an artist and began to study the painting technique known as “Mische”, expressing new hope. Danny was accepted as a boarder at a boys public school, but it was not a success. Aged 14, he began self-harming, and there were episodes of overdosing on the pills and threats of actual violence. He set fires. He smoked. There were dramatic emergencies. He was then “certified”, and had a series of bewildering hospital stays for diagnoses by various specialists. This included a spell in residence for “treatment” at The Royal Bethlem hospital, Croydon, which seems to have been an asylum in all but name. Depression was a strong factor, perhaps exacerbated by taking medication to reduce the severity of the epilepsy, which would have been in conflict with any anti-depressant medication. Brigid was also helped at this time through the friendship and guidance she found with a teacher who advised those in his circle who were seeking for a sense of inner meaning and to become aware, be present and accept the conditions of the life we have and face its challenges. At age 18, Danny was moved to Delrow house, a Steiner establishment, where there were mostly Down’s syndrome teenagers. He became a boarder but was still in low spirits. He started to say "... if I get better ..." He was then sent to the Chalfont Centre for Epilepsy- but again he was depressed- Brigid reports a remark he made to her as he went back to Chalfont on one occasion: “I have been trying to cure myself so that I can live at home all the time…if I don't have a fit for 3 months, can I live at home? My heart plummeted. So that was why he had been trying so hard! I felt all the pathos of it, and yet the thought of having Danny home all the time was a nightmare. It would be difficult for any of us to carry on a normal life. I knew what would follow: Danny would retreat more and more into his room and become withdrawn again. I tried to explain this, to show him that he needed to live in a community, but all he could see was the bare fact that his mother did not want him to live at home.... I saw him get in the taxi, his head still bent. I felt like a murderer.” After another wrist-slashing he promised that if he did it again, it wouldn't be at home. He also said:“I look on death as a friend. Sooner or later I am going to kill myself.” He finally succeeded (not at home) with an overdose, aged 21. This story does not give answers or teach strategies or remedies, but very honestly describes what happened and the succession of impressions of this particular developing life and its impact on those around him. It is a brave undertaking by his mother, the author, to bring her thoughts, memories and feelings into balance and to honour his life. For the reader it offers a gathering of real and moving impressions of a mother who cared about developing herself as an artist at the same time as caring deeply about her afflicted son.

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